When Reality Sets In

When Reality Sets In

There is a moment between the adrenaline of diagnosis and the weariness of treatment when the reality of our disease sets in. I remember my experience. We had been to an oncologist, and he explained my precursor condition for multiple myeloma. I asked him to write it...
The Text You Don’t Want to Get

The Text You Don’t Want to Get

My heart froze with the phone still in my hand. The text was from a dear friend of mine, a presenter at my first writer’s conference. A mentor of my poetry, he endorsed my second book. Now, he texts that he’s been diagnosed with bone and blood cancer. He’s just at the...
I Want to Fix It!

I Want to Fix It!

In my book, Suspended: Living with Dying, I talk a lot about not only how we are handling our life-altering diagnosis but also about how others around us are. Just as we are unique, they also are, and no two situations are exactly alike. For example, I recently got an...
I was Shocked

I was Shocked

Sure, I had been sick most of January and February. And he had just gotten out of a week at the hospital that I hadn’t known about. I guess I hadn’t seen him since before Christmas. But I hardly recognized him. He was a shadow of the man he had been. I...
Journaling

Journaling

Writing a friend or journaling has many benefits when facing stressful times. I know for some, it is difficult. Flashbacks of grade school writing exercises of 5-minute speed drills paralyze the pen. The fear of spelling errors, incorrect functions, and...